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FOCUS RIGHT NOW - let Meditation and Mindfulness show you how.

It is currently early in the morning. I have a cup of coffee to my right, very quiet classical music in the background, my phone is off, I feel clear and peaceful. I slept very soundly, I woke up and after a quick run to the water closet I got in my chair and meditated.

The day begins feeling clear, peaceful and ready to focus on what I need and desire to focus on. I am far from a cool calm person, I am type A and proud of it, I just like the feeling of a peaceful type A person. Oxymoron perhaps but it works for me. And if you think you don't have time you are wrong. Every minute you put into working on your mind, you will find double those minutes available in your day.

You are a company, a parent, a leader, a volunteer, a host, a teacher, a creator, a factory worker, an artist, a friend, a lover, an employee, a person who works with many, a person who works alone; you are a person with a desire to utilize all that you have, to do all that you can do. You want to touch this world in a way that makes a difference, not to write in your obituary but to give to the world right now. Not only to give to the world but to receive from the world, right now. Don't miss a moment because we all know that moments are like our breath, they won't last forever.

Everyday you interact with two things, yourself and the people around you.
Everyday you carry around two things that you can’t get away from, your body and your mind. If you can connect with your body and mind, you will connect to what you interact with in a much more positive and productive way.

Can you focus on what you need to focus on? Do you lack that calm inner peace that you darn well know we all desire? Do you know how to balance work, life and family so that all are getting what they need? Do you know which needs and deserves more of your time?

Some cool person said "Life is like juggling 5 balls, each ball represents work, family, health, friends and spirit. Work is a rubber ball, if you drop it, it will bounce back. The rest of the balls are glass."

You walk down the hall, any hall, in your home, work, school, wherever. You pass a person that needs your attention, you have a choice, is it critical you give them your attention or is where you are headed more important? You probably think the answer is "I am a good person so I need to stop in the hall and give them my attention." Possibly you are right, however your attention is limited currency and you must use it frugally. Maybe your employee wanted to talk about the awesome band they saw last night and you need to get to your desk to finish a project that is due in an hour and critical to the company’s success. You adore your employee and are a huge music fan but you know what you need to focus on.

So, bravo, now you are struggling as to know where to put your focus, do you just blow off your employee, rushing by with a quick wave? This may sound silly but there is a way to effectively do both. A way to give a mere moment of focus to that employee to let them know you do care, you do want to hear all about it but you must get to that project now. You probably think that you already do that, but most of the time you don't. Most of the time we are rushing around like crazy people, busy, busy, busy and we are actually proud of being busy, busy people get things done. The old adage "Need something done, ask a busy person," that was me and I was very proud of it. Then I realized that the people around me didn't really know that I cared deeply, didn't know that what I needed to focus on was important, maybe to the company, maybe to the family, maybe just to ME!

I recently told my employees (and it took 14 years) that I needed time to write, time to think, time to teach and time to take mini retreats at my new tiny home I purchased because it was important to me and my wellbeing. I told them that I might have to be unavailable for a few hours, no text, no email, nada. This was so I could work on what I was passionate about. Then I wanted to hide because I knew they were going to judge me as a lazy person who didn't care. I was wrong. Instead they said, "that's great, you totally should do that, I am proud of you." I nearly had a heart attack, actually my heart was attacked with shear gratitude. They were smarter than me and knew that I was unfocused and to busy to a point of craze. That was when I realized I could do it all and at a peaceful pace.

What did this mean? It meant they could feel safe in their jobs, they knew I would always keep my eye on the company ball, they knew that if I was running to a meeting it was for a good reason and I would be back to give them my full attention. Real attention, caring attention where they can say what they want and I will listen, truly listen. I may not agree with what I heard but that doesn't matter because we all need to be heard. They listened to me when I told them what I needed, I felt understood, I felt loved, I felt peaceful. I felt like I could do anything. It is my honor as a human to make them feel the same.

This may sound like a lovely story but it is much more than that. It's about focus and how we can use our brains to the maximum capacity to be efficient and effective with our actions and to make sure our actions serve the outcome we desire.

Today it just happened that my meditation was focused toward compassion. Starting at the intimate family, working toward all beings in the world and ending with myself. "May you feel peace, may you be healthy, may you know you are loved." Maybe that is why my morning was so damn awesome.

Meditation and mindfulness needs to be learned just like a sport or playing an instrument. First you learn the basics, then you practice, and practice, and amazing things can happen.

Alexa Zaledonis has studied and practiced meditation and mindfulness for more than 30 years. She is certain this practice has guided her through the highs and lows of her life. Zaledonis teaches and coaches individuals, groups and corporations in simple but profound ways, making meditation and mindfulness accessible to everyone. Her goal is to make these practices as routine as brushing your teeth, you just do it, nearly impossible to forget.

Alexa has studied with great teachers like Sarah McLean and Kamini Desai and is available to bring these great teachings to you or your group. Meeting you where you are at… today. Follow her blog at EvenKeelLiving.com and follow her tips on Instagram @alexameditates.


alexa@evenkeelliving.com

My Nervous System is making me Nervous

 

Does this remind you of anyone? Time to get up (late and tired), get the kids ready, get myself ready, wonder what we will all eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner.  Crap, you didn't feed the dog and of course no one else did either. Good thing you are running late, have a meeting you need to be at, your feeling fat, have no time to exercise and good thing that inside you are seriously annoyed at your significant other, but that can wait. For now, just "Grin and Bear it." But first, you take a moment to grab your phone and check your email and spend some quality time with social media because, well, your late.

 

Could this be you? This my friend is your SNS (sympathetic nervous system,) the fight or flight mode on overdrive. The other nervous system PNS (parasympathetic nervous system,) or rest and digest has gone back to bed. Although they both are always at work, your SNS has hijacked your brain.

 

In all honesty, this day is just another day like any other but our perception of it is stressful. The fight or flight system is not a bad thing, we need it. When a car is about to run over an old lady or a tiger is chasing us or an ax murderer is under your desk you can thank that system to: raise your heart rate and blood pressure, fire up your muscles to run, make you more alert and laser focused, increase the stress hormone cortisol and on and on. Sound great? Yes, except I am 99% certain there is no old lady, tiger or ax murderer around. And, this fight or flight hijack, day after day can take a toll on your overall health, is a waste of your energy and it truly plays hell on the neurological functioning of your brain.

 

Our world today, with nonstop information firing at us and a tidal wave of technology, does not help us to activate our rest and digest system (PNS), the one that creates balance and equilibrium in our body. This system does things like: conserves energy, slows the heart rate and increases intestinal and glandular activity. Rest and digest sounds way more fun than fight or flight, right?

 

Back to your ignorant significant other and the "grin and bear it" mantra. Does that make it easier, make you look cool and in control, does it make it go away? No. Suppressing emotions actually makes the emotions grow stronger. The brain is constantly trying to figure out if your world is dangerous or friendly and sending us signals through our emotions. Burying them does more harm than good. It is our "perception" of our world that guides us to run away (danger) or toward (reward) something. Running away, sadly is usually the response that wins. Just perceiving you are in danger makes us feel nervous. When you learn to identify and regulate your emotions and perceptions, now you really are calm, cool and collected and will enjoy the rest and digest part of your nervous system. And you are also healthier, sleeping better, thinking better, and gliding through life instead of stumbling through it.

 

What to do?                                                                                                                                                              

-       Slow down

-       Become more self-aware

-       Feel your emotions as they arise

-       Live Mindfully...

 

There's that “mindful” word again. It's not creepy or religious, you don't need to wear a robe, sit under the Bodhi tree or take a week off to attend an expensive retreat where they take all your technology away (although that does sound blissful.) Meditation and mindfulness tools will in fact combat stress and make you healthier. You need to take action and discharge the stress rather than waiting for it to dissipate on its own. Use these tools to become more stress and body aware before the next hijacking of your nervous system takes place.

 

 

Take Two:

Wake up (5 minutes early) after a good night’s sleep feeling refreshed and energized. Take those 5 minutes to do a simple body scan and breath awareness meditation. Sitting in a quiet place, close your eyes, just take one minute or so to bring your attention to each part of the body, release all tension, then relax over the next four minutes by non-judgmentally observing your breath, in and out. Super simple and a good start to learning about meditation! Now breeze through the kitchen grabbing food that you remembered days ago to stock the fridge with, gently remind the kids to feed the dog. Take one minute to feel the irritation inside of you, feel it again, take a few deep breaths, let it go. Congratulations, you just hit the reset button and you are now ready to mindfully take on the day!

 

If you want to learn more quickly on what actually happens to your brain from stress check out this short video - https://ed.ted.com/lessons/how-stress-affects-your-brain-madhumita-murgia

 

 


alexa@evenkeelliving.com

The Easiest (and BEST) New Year’s Resolution Ever - Meditation and Mindfulness

 

Here we go again. A new year of resolutions: I will exercise every day, I won't eat sugar, heck I will become a vegan, I will spend more time with my kids, I won't work so much, I will take more time off, I will give up alcohol, ok maybe just beer, I will learn meditation and mindfulness because I heard it works on stress and I want to give up stress too. It's going to be a great year!

 

Resolution: Noun
1. a firm decision to do or not do something
2. the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter

 

Even the definition sounds like we are setting ourselves up for failure.

 

I find that people who set "intentions instead of resolutions" are far more likely to see results. For example, if I say, "My new year’s resolution is to lose twenty pounds over the next six months," that can add a lot of stress which might make you want to eat more (plus one of your resolutions was to reduce stress). However, if I set an intention to lead a healthier lifestyle then I may just choose to put the ice cream back during those late-night hours as I remind myself "Alexa you said you were trying to live a healthier lifestyle.” That intention alone can help you make all types of healthy choices: like taking the stairs instead of the elevator, spending more time in the outdoors, using natural cleaning products, and on an on. One intention, multiple great outcomes. Less stress, more success.

 

And the feeling of success is easier to attain when you start with a bit of peace. From the Dalai Lama to Jack Kornfield, there is always a lot of discussion about peace, clarity, compassion and courage, all things needed to live a full life of good intention. I always say find peace first then the rest will follow.

 

To find peace, first you need to know what is going on inside yourself, inside your head! Science and technology are advancing our worlds in leaps and bounds but what about your head and heart? We are complicated creatures with tens of thousands of things going through our consciousness and only a handful happening in the executive portion of our brain. When you dream that you are holding your cat in a frying pan while you are skiing in a ball gown, you wake up and say "wow that was a weird dream" but truthfully millions of disassociated things are going through your head all the time and we need to get the train of your mind to stay on the tracks and lead it where we want it to go.

 

You have heard the saying "you can do anything you put your mind to," but we also know it isn’t easy, our minds are very busy. So busy that we don't see that we are unfocused, un-energized, tired and maybe even a little cranky.

 

Here is why learning to incorporate meditation and mindfulness into your life in 2018 can be the simplest yet most impactful starting point for a peaceful, less stress filled 2018. And, if you need science to prove it works there are lots of (good) studies to prove it.

 

MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS - THE BASICS OF WHAT IT CAN DO
(below are 4 achievements you will conquer through the process of meditation and mindfulness. Over the next couple of weeks, follow my blog and we will explore each one of these in more detail)

 

(1) Calm your nervous system – FACT - Feel better and be healthier right off the bat. You are already on your way to a better immune system, better digestion, increased metabolism, lower blood pressure etc. with very little investment to start. Think 5 minutes.

 

(2) Improve focus - PROVEN - You can slow down, get more done and get it done quicker by not only having better focus but actually focusing on what you WANT to focus on, when you want to. Get 'er done and take all that extra left-over time to do something fun!

 

(3) More engaged - SOUND WEIRD? - nope. A calm, clear, peaceful mind means that you can actually listen better, be nicer to be around, and effectively interact with the world, including your kids, friends, spouses, aging parents, employees, etc. There is nothing more powerful, beautiful and respectful than being completely engaged, enjoying the moment you are in, with those in your life that you care most for.

 

(4) Less Reactive - ARE YOU REACTIVE? Yup, I bet a lot of your new year’s resolutions were made in reaction to something. Meditation and mindfulness trains your brain to quickly notice what your reaction might be, and then actually react the proper way, the way you would want to, had you had the time to think it all through. Normally we: blow up, shut down, blame others or maybe a combination; none of which is effective or guided by our intentions.

 

NEW DISCOVERIES IN SCIENCE - NEUROPLASTICITY -YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR BRAIN!



HOW GREAT IS THAT? We can learn some simple techniques that can make a great impact on our lives. On how we see ourselves and the world we live in, on our health and well-being. It's like a having a secret weapon available at all times. Whether you need to take a test, make a decision, create a new company, comfort a loved one or choose to put the ice cream back......join me in discovering what meditation and mindfulness can do for you. It's not the McMindfulness people worry is attacking the world as is plastered on the front cover of magazines (although these are pretty high brow publications) it's an age-old practice, in a new era, it's cool and it's cheaper than a gym membership.

 

LET’S MAKE THIS THE BEST NEW YEAR EVER

Join me in the coming weeks as I discuss ways to find help you to find more time in your day, discover how to build your EQ (Emotional Quotient) much less what can happen to your IQ (Intelligence Quotient), lessen the burdens of relationships much less build relationships, change your view on listening, learn that stress is actually a good thing (if handled properly) discover how you can change the neuroplasticity of your brain and much more.

 

 

Alexa Zaledonis has studied and practiced meditation and mindfulness for more than 30 years. She is certain this practice has guided her through the highs and lows of her life. Zaledonis teaches and coaches individuals, groups and corporations in simple but profound ways, making meditation and mindfulness accessible to everyone. Her goal is to make these practices as routine as brushing your teeth, you just do it, nearly impossible to forget.

Alexa has studied with great teachers like Sarah McLean and Kamini Desai and is available to bring these great teachings to you or your group. Meeting you where you are at… today. Follow her blog at EvenKeelLiving.com and follow her tips on Instragram @alexameditates.


alexa@evenkeelliving.com

Who is that Lady in the Airport? I want to be her!

Did you ever play the game "What are 5 traits of someone you deeply admire?"
If so, patronize me and play again. It only takes a moment but is worth a dozen.
Get a scrap of paper and pen. Here we go:

Pick someone (or multiple people) you look up to: famous, historical, your neighbor, anyone you deeply respect or maybe would even love to have as your mentor.
Write down 5 of their traits that you most admire.
 
Now look at the list. I bet you think those traits are incredible-- maybe even unattainable. What if you were told those traits you admire are actually who you are?  You may be thinking, “that's not me, that’s who I wish I could be.” In reality, you are those qualities that you deeply admire but perhaps they need to be cultivated and made stronger so they are available whenever you want or need them. By nourishing these qualities, you are building your life in a way that brings you to your greatest potential as defined by "you" and no one else.

So, who is that lady in the airport? I have been asking myself that since 2012.  To make a long story short, I hired a kick-butt, brilliant, amazing coach (holy crap, maybe I have the qualities of my coach!) who asked me how I saw myself in the future. I said, “I want to be that lady I saw in the airport.” Done, that was easy! For some reason, she needed more information. Here is the story-

One day, I was racing to catch a flight to Chicago for a meeting; I was late, frazzled, sweating with the weight of my backpack heavy on my shoulders, angry that I didn't get any coffee, I hated the suit I was wearing...you get the picture.  And there she was: a tall silhouette of a woman drifting effortlessly through the airport looking as if the light from heaven cast down on her. She was well dressed-understated, tailored yet comfortable- gliding at a pace that looked slow while still covering a lot of ground.  She wasn't on a phone, or searching for that darned Starbucks- she looked like she was on a mission, but a peaceful one. She had places to go and people to see but she appeared grounded in her own being, as though at that moment no one else existed- but she was present for all that existed. So, now you’re thinking, “Lex got that out of a two second sighting of a woman in an airport?”  It may seem strange, but I did, and I’ll never forget her.

Now, being the slow learner that I am, 2017 is winding down with 2018 around the corner and, suddenly, it all makes perfect sense! I am that woman in the airport!! I just need to work at it, a lot. I'm wired with a high idle and a busy entrepreneurial brain but it serves me well (most of the time).  Today I woke early, meditated, mindfully cleaned the kitchen, fed 5 dogs, made steel cut oats, brought coffee to wake up my loved one...all before 8 am!  And, I glided gracefully through it all. I AM that peaceful, grounded, clear, beautiful woman in the airport, I just need to work on it every day. For me, it’s an early start and meditation that grounds me in who I want to be, in who I am.  Now I best go take a shower, I'm not quite ready for the airport in my robe.

Look inside
Find stillness
Be present
Be who you want to be

Much Love,
Alexa

alexa@evenkeelliving.com

What’s love got to do with it? Well, frankly everything.

We wander our way through life feeling moments of joy, days of happiness, a sloshing of love, four hundred meters of confidence and then BAM you can’t seem to find it. It was there when you woke up yesterday and even when you went to bed.

And then today, according to Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and all the freaking smiling people in spin class, they all have it and you don’t; you can’t even find an emoticon on your iphone that can project how totally crappy and unloved you feel today. I have a sneaking suspicion that it is illegal to post anything but shear joy on those sites.

How can this be and how do I get my mojo back, fast, because this feeling just isn’t one I am up for today. Or maybe it is all ok. Is there something that I can have, right now that will make me feel ok to feel not ok?  Hint: four letters, rhymes with dove.

Maybe what makes us feel loved or worthy or, my favorite, vulnerable, is the same as what makes us feel fear or shame or generally like a flipping loser.  Ok, yes there are many studies about who feels worthy and why and I completely idolize Brene Brown but right now I really need this feeling of crappy panic misery ‘ishness’ (not a medical diagnosis, but it darn well should be) to go away. I need to wake up and figure it out fast before the day really gets away from me. Because, be real, we are busy people who need to get it all done so we can relax.  

I have been deeply loved in my life, and I have been deeply hurt, I have even loved others deeply and hurt the ones I loved (gee, has that happened to you before? No? Liar.) Oh, and then there was the one I wanted to love but they couldn’t love me back for some ridiculous reason that they couldn’t explain.  That one really sucked. And how about the friend that was your BFF but decided to Un-BFF you? How does that happen? What happened to there being no weakness in forgiveness? Darn we are all so weak that it’s sort of endearing. Let’s capture and embrace it like a big sunflower patch. Are you throwing up yet?

Maybe that’s it; we need to embrace the weakness. Our weakness. Be the golf ball with dimples missing from the twenty trees you hit, all on the front nine; be the squirrel who forgot where he hid his nuts and can’t admit it to his pals; be late and just tell them the truth that you really wanted a Frappuccino™; tell the person who gets in the elevator that no, it was not your dog who farted.

Laugh at your weaknesses, embrace who you are, actually embrace your weaknesses since you are the one who put a label to them. We need to embrace the gift of love no matter how small or how big it is. Hug your dog, smile at a stranger, pay for the woman’s coffee behind you, be grateful for your friends even if you only have one.

So, what’s love got to do with it?

Everything.

But first you need to learn that there is an order inherent in this action called love. First you have to start with yourself, once you start loving yourself you can give it away like a bottomless bowl of popcorn. Just keep sharing it and never worry if you get any back because heck, you already have an endless bowl. Maybe the guy next to you will even give you some of his sour patch kids (which by the way are fantastic in popcorn) but if not, no big deal because, well, you have popcorn.

Perhaps you think this is a stupid blog on self-love, and maybe it is, but it would be the same blog if I substituted a feeling like fear, anger, insecurity, or jealousy; except, who needs those? Those feelings are also learned but why waste time on that education. If we are born with none of these and we work so hard to learn them then I choose to put more of my education in love and not the rest of that, not-so-fun stuff.  

Here is the scenario; you wake up and your body feels great, you slept well, you feel clear headed and calm. Then what?  Most likely you will have a good day because “where the mind goes energy flows” right?

Ok, again we need this to be a lot simplier, because we just don’t wake up that often with all that good stuff going on. At minimum if we wake up and think, I love me, no matter what I love me. Actually right now I am writing and screaming “I love me” and I scared the dog and he bit me, but it was out of love, I think. I digress, I love me, then guess what, I can love you. As a matter of fact I have no idea who you are but I can honestly say, “I love you”.

So yes, love has a lot to do with it.  How do we get there?  Plant the seeds.  Start today. We live our lives fighting fires, we weed our gardens only to find another weed popped up. What can we plant instead? Ahhhhh, now that is the deep question. But again, let’s start real simple, ok?  Look in the mirror; better yet write it on your mirror in hot red lipstick (yes especially you guys), “I LOVE ME”.

If doing that is too hard, then start small. Check out yourself on your way to work in the rear view mirror, just at stop lights, start small; give yourself a wink. You are pretty darn cool. Love is pretty darn cool. 

Now go give it away like popcorn.

alexa@evenkeelliving.com

It’s not broken, it just needs rearranging.

My grandmother told me you can’t die of a broken heart. But I never got to ask her if you could die after several broken hearts. She also said that you could only cry over something for 24 hours and then you needed to stop it and move on. I never got to ask her if the 24 hours applied to broken hearts or anything in general.  There is a big difference and I am heartbroken that she is no longer around to ask the answer.   

When she was sick she would put on multiple nightgowns (at once), put a pile   next to her bed, drink tea, honey and whiskey; crawl under a mountain of blankets and “sweat it out”. Sweat, change the nightgowns, sweat some more, drink more homeopathic brew and repeat the process.  The key in the process was to leave her completely alone.  No coddling, no helping, just leave her in peace. (And it was peaceful, she never complained.) Her bedroom had only three walls and the other wall was a long curtain that ran the length of the hallway, which was just over the open staircase. It sounds strange but it was all we knew so it seemed completely normal. It was probably a sitting room, which later became a bedroom as the family grew or guests took up space.  What it really meant was that you had to climb the creaky stairs carefully as not to disturb her. This was not easy.

Before we visited she baked, she cooked, she canned, she supplied an army of food even if it was just for my small four person family. I lost my grandfather when I was little so this process, in my life, was just one that she did alone and she seemed to love it. I sure did!

As I live my life, as do most, surrounded by people, technology and an endless to do list, sometimes I find myself in pieces. Then add something like a broken heart or confused mind, and the pieces seem to scatter like a bottle dropped on a craggy sidewalk. It doesn’t matter who agrees or disagrees with my emotions, doesn’t matter whose fault anything is, the emotions are mine; no one can really walk in another’s shoes. No one can ever truly know what is on your mind, nor can you know what they are thinking. It is all you; beautiful you.

Hence my Grandmother’s teaching in taking time alone to care for yourself finally makes sense to me. Be with yourself and no one else. You are the whole, you are the pieces, you are in charge of the rearranging. You may think that finding this time is impossible, but it is imperative to a human’s ability to feel whole again, to be creative, to be insightful, to do gre­­at things. It is the only way to get to the ocean of who we are and hear the wisdom that lies within; to find the knowledge and insight that we have stored away too deep to access in a fleeting moment.

The old adage “the answer lies within” is quite true.

This is where meditation and mindfulness for over thirty years has helped me at times keep my pieces all in one place and over time to be able to rearrange, reassess and recreate a life of wholeness. At the end of the day we are blessed to be surrounded by good people, but the best of those is you.

Thanks Grandma, I think I finally get it. 

We can all withstand many broken hearts, illnesses and tearful moments with a little time alone; be it in bed, in the kitchen or just writing it down.  

Meditation rocks as you can use it in small doses each day without having to lock yourself in your bedroom.  Of course if you do have the chance to escape for a few days alone … do it!

alexa@evenkeelliving.com


alexa@evenkeelliving.com

Peace, Focus and Patience. I gotta get me some!

Is it really that easy.  SEED Meditation®

Plant it and watch it grow. 

 

For over 10 years I have heard people say, I start to feel better as soon as I walk in the front door of the Keel.  Is it the music, the lighting, the people, the knowledge that soon you get to lie down, the fact that we ask you to turn off your phone?  Perhaps it is a combination of all of those things, but most importantly, it is the permission you have given yourself; the permission to selflessly take care of yourself, put your oxygen mask on first, be at home, if only for an hour with the most important person, you.

 

I have always felt that I have been blessed with the skill of massage.  However over the years the number one thing I have found is that most healing starts with watching a person slowly quiet their minds, slow their breathing, go inside to a place of pure consciousness and allow their own healing to begin.  This magic can be found in a daily meditation practice.  

 

My career, starting as a CPA, then 15 years later a Massage Therapist was not a whim or an accident.  It started as a very, very, anxiety ridden kid which later grew into an anxiety ridden adult.  I was lucky to land in the hands of a good counselor who introduced me to the nurturing silence of massage and It was a gifted Massage Therapist who introduced me to the healing silence of meditation. For almost thirty years I have been on and off my meditation pillow, reading books and quietly wondering what the heck is this meditation practice is that leaves me feeling calm and courageous, peaceful yet powerful, loved, focused, creative and closer to my soul?

 

So why did it take until four years ago for me to get serious and make it a part of my daily life?    Because it was a quest I took on by myself that was necessarily accelerated by the lovely thing that life throws at you called stress.  You know the thing that you don’t see until perhaps your immune system tanks and your hair falls out.

 

I was a closet meditator who didn’t want to be labeled.  I needed to understand the “why and the how” of it.  I needed to learn that thoughts were normal and you can’t stop them, you don’t need to sit in lotus position on the floor and you don’t need to change your religion or even have one for that matter.  I always enjoyed helping a client discover a 4:4:2 breathing technique to ease stress or perhaps experience a little guided meditation but I really wanted to learn how to teach meditation.  Having an experience of meditation is great but actually learning to meditate at home is knowledge you can use forever.  Experiences are nice, knowledge is powerful.

 

I have been studying with the McLean Meditation Institute in Sedona and after a whole lot of learning and practice, from an amazing teacher named Sarah McLean, I am now proudly certified to teach a meditation method called SEED Meditation®, “Simple, Easy, Every Day Meditation”.   This is the practice I have been searching for to share with our clients for years.  Again, I got lucky and found this one before thirty more years had passed.

 

You may not see me in the massage room as much and it is not because I don’t believe in the power of massage.   It is because my path to wellness leaves me obligated to share what I know is missing in many lives.  That feeling you get when you walk in the door of the Keel.  A little peace that I know I can teach you to find in your hearts, every day of the year.